This is the fourth activity on diversability. This activity can be used as an immersion on the topic after the warming-up. You can find more activities on diversability here.



30 minutes


Between 4 and 16 participants.


  • Open space. 
  • Other materials such as hair brushes, or make up are not necessary but can add to the activity.


Ensure that the participants are comfortable with being touched by their companions and that the “carers” complete their tasks without harming their partner in anyway.


This activity is to show participants what it feels like to be someone with poor motor abilities who is unable to prepare themself for important events and that even when they may want privacy, that is not an option for them. It is interesting for the particpants to experience this so that when they are offering their help, they understand how the person that they are helping may feel. This is because, normally, when asked for help, people tend to treat the other person as a child or as weak, whereas people with different motor abilities just want to be treated as people who may need some extra help.


  • Experience the situation of “helping” and “being helped.”
  • Learn to ask and offer help.
  • Be placed in the position of people with different motor abilities.


The facilitator separates the group into pairs.

Within each couple, two roles will be distributed:

– one will assume the role of “caregiver”. Perform attention and care tasks. 

Must: dress, move, transport, put on make up, comb the “assisted” hair; Fix them up for an important appointment.

– and the other will assume the role of “assisted”. They must not support the weight of their own body and let themself be done up by the other person. The “assisted” should be communicating to the other how he would like to look.

The exercise consists in surrendering to the experience of “caring and being cared for” “providing and receiving help”.

Half of the couples will sit and watch what the other half of couples do.

If you have time, you can change roles within couples.


  • What is easier for you? Receive or give help?
  • How can you provide help to someone without offending, or belittling them?